VIDEO: The Single Life: The Science Of Love

My Title:  Proof That People Are Terrified Of Being Alone

The question that is asked is, if you could wake up tomorrow and either be single or in a relationship, which would you choose?

Of course, the question is pretty vague. The guy asking the questions claims they asked a total of 90 different people this question and all 90 replied they would rather be in a relationship, without any qualifications as to who this supposed person is.

If that question had been posed to me, the first thing out of my mouth would have been: ‘Be in a relationship with whom? Who is this person? Why are you asking me a hypothetical question about something that by its very nature is anything but hypothetical, but instead individualistic and personal?’ No specifics about anything are given about who this supposed person is; just, do you want to be in a relationship? And all 90 responded yes.

The question should have been, ‘How desperate are you to be in a relationship?’ Because that, in essence, is what they asked. And all 90 responses claimed that they are indeed very desperate. This tells me one thing:

People are terrified of being alone. Absolutely terrified.

I understand wanting companionship and I understand not wanting loneliness. What I don’t understand is being so desperate for that companionship and so terrified of being alone that your knee-jerk reaction when you’re asked a question with no qualifications like this is that you want to be in a relationship, without even acknowledging, or maybe even knowing, that being in a relationship with the wrong person can be a nightmare that is much, much worse than being alone.

There’s a reason why a large segment of single folk are proud to be unattached. Because they know, and many times have learned the hard way, that being single is much more preferrable than getting involved with the wrong person. This be-in-a-relationship-at-all-cost mentality (which many do indeed have) is not only wrong, but is unhealthy and is the underlying attitude behind why so many who are in downright abusive relationships don’t have the courage to leave. They’re terrified of being alone.

I get it that this is supposed be a well-intentioned, feel-good video about taking a risk in telling someone you’re interested in them. I think it sends the wrong message and encourages people to act without thinking when it comes to relationships, though. The rest of the video is the interviewees making awkward phone calls to people they think would make good boyfriends or girlfriends.

And this video is called The Science Of Love.  Not surprisingly, I saw very little science on display. This act-before-thinking mentality when it comes to relationships, which is fed by countless movies and novels and is pretty much pervasive in our culture, is unhealthy and at times damaging to us as people.


Devo guitarist Bob Casale dies from heart failure at 61.

This makes me sad.  Devo were way ahead of their time.

NEW YORK — Devo guitarist Bob Casale died Monday, his brother and band mate announced Tuesday. Casale was 61.

He was known by fans as “Bob 2″ since he played alongside guitarist Bob Mothersbaugh, the brother of Devo co-founder Mark Mothersbaugh.

“As an original member of Devo, Bob Casale was there in the trenches with me from the beginning,” his brother and band mate Gerald Casale said in a Face posting. “He was my level-headed brother, a solid performer and talented audio engineer, always giving more than he got.”

Two of my favorite Devo songs:

Cop mistakes a Wii controller for a gun; shoots and kills 17-year old answering his door.

A Euharlee police officer opened fire on 17-year-old Christopher Roupe while serving a warrant for probation violation on the child’s father, claiming the boy pointed a gun at her.

But when neighbors ran up the home, they instead found a Wii remote in the boy’s dead hands.

According to the attorney for the family, Cole Law, “The eyewitnesses on the scene clearly state that he had a Wii controller in his hand. He heard a knock at the door. He asked who it was, there was no response so he opened the door and upon opening the door he was immediately shot in the chest.”

How anyone could mistake a Wii controller for a gun is beyond mystifying.  Unless maybe the cop thought it was a Star Trek phaser of some sort.  I don’t mean to joke about a tragedy, but how could anyone mistake this……

……for a firearm?  That officer needs to be drug-tested.  A completely needless tragedy.

Seattle Seahawks: Super Bowl Champions

For the first time in their history, the Seattle Seahawks have won the Super Bowl. Growing up a Seahawk fan as a kid, we used to dream that someday, just maybe, the Seahawks could win the Lombardi. While we had a pretty good team back in the 80s, we never got there, thanks mostly to the Raiders and the Broncos. Ironically though, the Seahawks trounced the Broncos 43-8 in the most lopsided Super Bowl in quite awhile. The Seahawk defense dominated the game and made the Broncos look like an expansion team.

Some other thoughts from the game:

There was nothing more satisfying as an old Seahawk fan than seeing the look on John Elway’s face up in the booth as his Broncos went down in flames. Nothing.

Speaking of the Raiders, I found it very ironic that Marcus Allen of all people was trotted out to present the Lombardi trophy to Paul Allen during the trophy presentation at the end of the game.  A Raider presenting the Lombardi trophy to the Seahawks?  I don’t know if that was intentional or not, but if it wasn’t, it felt bizarre.

I was disappointed that Steve Largent did not make an appearance during the Super Bowl. If he was at the game, there was no indication of it. Largent is probably the greatest Seahawk ever and it would have been really cool if the he had made a cameo.

The halftime show was less than impressive.  While I do really like Red Hot Chili Peppers, I don’t know why they agreed to do what they did.  They’re one of the best rock bands of the last 25 years and they get relegated to riding the coattails of……Bruno Mars?  Couple this with how the Grammy organizers did something similar to Nine Inch Nails, Queens of the Stone Age, and Dave Grohl during their closing performance at the Grammys and it’s clear to me rock music is once again occupying its traditional role of the disrespected outsider in the music industry.  The Chili Peppers are amazing live.  You wouldn’t know it from that halftime show.